In last week’s post, I suggested that you set the goal of peace. I further said that setting the goal of peace provides two dramatic benefits:
1. You experience peace now; and
2. You experience peace and peaceful events and circumstances in the future.
How great is that?
Now comes the obvious question: why don’t most people choose peace? Here are a few reasons: our seemingly insistent need to blame, criticize, complain, gossip, make excuses and/or judge.
Why do we do these things when all of them really bring us nothing but grief and they surely don’t bring us peace? The simplest reason is that most people, take a look for yourself, really don’t want to take responsibility for what’s happening in their lives. When things don’t go the way we want, it’s so much easier to make excuses, criticize or blame someone else. The problem is that whenever we do that, we just create more events and circumstances that we don’t like, giving us more opportunities to make excuses, criticize or blame. It’s a vicious cycle.
The same can be said about complaining and gossiping. People seem to love to complain about something, anything. It’s much easier to complain than to take responsibility and handle the situation. And, because no one seems to ever want to confront their issues with another face-to-face, the simpler path is to gossip to another and enroll them in our upset. Again, peace goes out the window and we get events and circumstances that give us an opportunity to continue complaining and gossiping.
The worst one is our habit of judging, both ourselves and others. I really want you to look and see how much you do this. We look out at our world through eyes that we think know how everybody, including ourselves, should act, at all times. It’s literally like we’re sitting in a courtroom with the judge’s robes on with the assignment and ability to judge everything and everybody. This is good, that is bad, this is right, that is wrong. And who gets more of our judgments than anyone else is us. We’re always judging ourselves, and usually harshly. We just don’t realize not only that we shouldn’t judge but that we cannot judge. We never have all of the facts which will allow us to do that effectively.
Do you want peace? Here’s your assignment for the week: no blaming, criticizing, complaining, gossiping, making excuses or judging. See if you can go even a day doing that. If you can, or if you can’t, try again the next day, and then try again, and then try again. I promise that if you can train yourself to go a whole day without blaming, criticizing, complaining, gossiping, making excuses or judging, you’ll be well on your way to experiencing peace in your life. And if you’ve already forgotten the benefits of that, return to the top of the article and start over.