Having trouble getting what you want? You’re not alone! Many people are frustrated and scratching their head wondering why they aren’t getting what they want.
The problem is, many people don’t know what they want. If a genie popped out of a bottle to grant a wish, most people would stutter, stammer and not be sure what to ask for. If you cannot name what you want with great specificity, the chances of you claiming it are slim. Actually, most people are better at describing what they don’t want than what they want.
Lack of clarity about what you want leads to indecision, inaction, and, ultimately, results you don’t want. It’s like driving a car to an unknown destination. Not knowing what you want is a problem for several reasons. If you don’t know what you want, you can’t ask or intend you have it. You reduce the chances of getting it or even knowing if it was right under your nose.
Begin thinking about what you really want. Allow yourself the time to do this. We often get so “busy” with doing “stuff”, we don’t stop to think about what we really want. So take some time. Name it so you can claim it!
Ask yourself the following questions; answer in great detail:
- What is it that I really want?
- What will it look like when I have it?
- What will it feel like when I have it?
- What will I be doing behaviorally when I have it?
- Who am I doing it with?
- Where will I be doing it?
- How will my life be different from the way it is now when I have it?
- What would I have to change or overcome to get it?
- What would success look like if I got it?
Naming what you truly want means that you can begin to guide your life like a ship toward a harbor light because you have specifically identified it. Be sure to focus on the feelings underneath what you want. Often what we want is the feelings of having something rather that the object, the job, the relationship itself. Being keyed into this will help you better describe what you want. Enjoy the process. Name it so you can claim it!