Would you rather be right or happy?

Continuing with what I wrote about last week, I always get a big kick out of the reactions I receive when I mention the truism: would you rather be right or happy? I don’t think most people really get the significance of that statement so let me elaborate.

For those of you that are familiar with the philosophy of Unshackled Leadership, you know we suggest we live in a world of duality represented by the world of our higher consciousness and the world of the ego. As I explain on page 37, “the higher mind is the home of our ‘higher consciousness.’ Every philosopher, every religion and every great thinker, from Buddha to Jesus and many others has acknowledged the presence of our higher consciousness. This is the voice of peace, love, oneness, togetherness, possibility and harmony. Theologians call this the voice of God. Call it whatever you want.

“The lower mind is the home of the ego. It is the part of our mind that was programmed as described above when I discussed the birth of ‘the conversation.’ As we will see, it is the voice of fear, limitation, separation, scarcity, greed and much more.”

To make the point even further, there is a story of an old Cherokee Indian on pages 108 – 109. “One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, ‘my son, the battle is between two ‘wolves’ inside each of us.

“One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority and ego.

“The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.”

If you’re with me so far, the question for each of us, at every moment, and at all times, is: which world are you living in? You can’t live in both. You can’t have one foot in heaven, so to speak, and one foot in hell, again so to speak. You can’t serve two masters. Now you might go back and forth, but at any given time, you’re either listening to the voice of love or the voice of fear.

The world of the ego is all about right/wrong, win/lose, good/bad, you’re over there, I’m over here, we’re separate and you’re the enemy. In that world, you always want to be right. There is no other choice.

In the world of your higher consciousness, there is no separation, no competition, no winners and losers. We’re all in this together, when one person wins, we all win, and we all get to be happy.

Got the point? No need to further debate and discuss this? So you don’t get to be happy by being right! You either live in the world of your higher consciousness or you live in the world of your ego. In the former world you get to be happy and in the later world, you give up the opportunity to be happy because you choose being right. So you don’t get both. One or the other. Now choose.

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