In the last few posts, I’ve been asking what is the formula for success and if there is indeed such a formula. Here are a few more responses to my question about the source of success:
“I believe the answer to all successful people is that they are motivated to succeed because it comes from THEIR OWN heart, THEIR OWN passion, to fulfill what THEY BELIEVE to be a meaningful contribution to this society/country/world. They believe in THEIR OWN dream and envision the results prior to achieving them. They are not afraid to have some failures along the way and do not let obstacles stop their drive to succeed. I guess as I think about it they throw out the negative ego of FEAR in all aspects.”
“Passion, hard work and opportunity.”
“I think most people who are successful love and truly believe in what they are doing. I think that they think they will make a difference in the world whether it is finding a family the right house or making a delicious new flavor of ice cream.”
These are all wonderful answers and it’s hard to argue against any of them. The only problem is that there are countless numbers of people who operate consistent with what is said above and are never successful.
So what’s the answer? And, is there “an answer?” I believe there is.
First of all, let’s get clear about my use of the word “success.” I don’t know what your definition of success is, that’s up to you. You may feel you raised some wonderful children and that makes you a success. You may feel, as I do, that you have been able to make a difference in the lives of others, maybe many others, and that makes you a success. I’m not here to dictate your definition of success
Since my audience is primarily composed of people in business, mostly people in leadership and/or managerial positions, and others who are interested in accomplishing what they want to accomplish in their personal and business lives, I’m speaking here about one’s ability to do that and therefor feel “successful.”
With that in mind, here’s the somewhat simplified formula. It all starts with your beliefs. And what determines your beliefs? How you were programmed to believe in the early stages of your life. 80% of that programming was completed by the time you were 8 years old! Why your beliefs are so important is because your beliefs determine how you think.
Then, how you think determines how you feel. I used to question which comes first, thinking or feeling, and now I’m clear everything starts with your thinking. How you think and feel determines what actions you take and how you take them. And your actions then determine your results. So where does it ALL start? It all starts with those beliefs and the resultant thoughts and emotions created thereby
Successful people think differently than unsuccessful people – that’s the bottom line. So the only way to become successful is to learn to think the way successful people think. Furthermore, successful people live in a world of feelings and emotions that are different than unsuccessful people so you want to understand what those feelings and emotions are.
Why is this the truth? Well that is the subject for the next issue. In the meantime, keep those arguments in favor of other answers coming. I will eventually respond to all of them.