Are you playing to win or not to lose?

In part four of this series on success, I stated that there exists something called the law of cause and effect. Simply stated, you are the “cause,” and what manifests in your world is the “effect.” More specifically, your thinking and beliefs determine how you become the “cause” in your company and your life.

Last week I gave an example of how the law of cause and effect works. This week, let’s take another example. What is the most predominant human emotion in our society? If you guessed “fear” you are correct. And what’s the opposite of fear? My favorite words are faith, trust and optimism.

But fear is so prevalent that if we see someone being totally turned on about life, totally optimistic, having something wonderful to say about everything and everybody, most people react like they are totally out of touch with reality. We say: “be realistic.” Or we call them a Pollyanna, because fear is the biggest game in town.

But here’s the rub. The only reason we feel fearful is that we “think” there’s something to be afraid of. It really doesn’t matter if we think we will fail, lose our best customer, our sales will drop, we’ll become unprofitable, we’ll lose our job or our relationship, the list of things we are afraid of is endless. But since all thoughts are creative, what you will attract into your life is whatever you are fearful of. Your life experience will be that there are lots of things to worry about or be fearful of and all of your fears will seem very real.

If you come from trust and optimism, what you will attract into your life are lots of things to support you in having faith. Your life experience will be that life is filled with opportunities and breakdowns are temporary bumps in the road.

Here’s the most important point: Successful people don’t let their fears stop them! And they don’t take them seriously. They are brave. They are risk takers. They have courage. They don’t stay in jobs or other circumstances that don’t support their vision and don’t bring them excitement and aliveness.

Unsuccessful people are stopped by their fears. They often choose being comfortable rather than taking risks. They view people who are out on the skinny branches of life as being foolish and irresponsible. They stay in jobs and relationships that don’t work for them because stepping out into the unknown is too scary.

Successful people play the game of life to win. Unsuccessful people play the game of life not to lose. Please read those two sentences very carefully. The difference is subtle, but makes all the difference in the world. And don’t move on too quickly. Take a moment. Ask yourself which are you doing, playing to win or not to lose. This could just be a life altering moment.

Summarizing, start managing your thoughts. Be enthusiastic, positive, passionate, and satisfied. Be willing to take risks. Have faith. The universe really is on your side. Confront your fears and insecurities. They are all imagined. They are not real. Having faith, being optimistic, trusting that everything will always turn out for the best just makes sense. Since whatever is going on in your life is a direct consequence of your thinking, why not take advantage of that fact and upgrade your thinking. And, you might just have fun doing this.

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