Welcome to the home of Enlightened Business Growth. I’m Scott Hunter with another lesson on how to have fabulous relationships, create extraordinary organizations and be outrageously successful.
In the last several issues, I asserted that you are meant to have an amazing life. And if you are in business, you are meant to have an amazing business. All of the things that you have ever thought you would like to be, do and have, you are meant to be, do and have. I then asked: why isn’t it that way for everyone, and for you? One answer is that no one ever told us that we have the power to create anything and what you have right now is exactly what you’re creating.
Last week I concluded that you spend most of your time feeling unhappy, disappointed, frustrated, angry, resentful and so on and that since you always get more of what you focus on, that’s why your life and your business aren’t amazing. As I also explained, when you think about the things you want and feel happy and hopeful – joyous, enthusiastic and appreciative would be even better – you create events and circumstances that contribute to those feelings.
Here’s the simplest way to change all of this in your favor. It’s actually so simple, many of you will disregard the suggestion as not serious. But I assure you it works. Since your feelings come from your thoughts, your thoughts are entirely a function of how life occurs for you, and how life occurs for you is entirely a function of the story you tell yourself about yourself and your life, just make up a new story! Human beings are so committed to the stories they tell themselves about their lives that it’s almost impossible to imagine it’s just a story. But it is just a story.
To make matters worse, we are so much better at making up sad and dramatic stories than we are at making up happy and joyful stories. It is said that the average person has 60,000 thoughts a day, 95% of them are the same as yesterday, and 80% of them are negative. Regardless, there’s really nothing “true” about what you make up, so learn to make up a happy story.
Here’s the easiest way to do this. Get a blank piece of paper and at the top write the heading: things I love about my life and am grateful for. Then write down everything you can think of. Start each day by reading your list. Take it with you during the day and add to it as you notice more things you love about your life. Before you go to bed, add more to the list. Whenever you’re feeling down or discouraged about anything, take out your list and read it. As simple as this sounds, it really works. You get what you focus on and learning to focus on what you love about your life and what you’re grateful for is a huge step in the right direction.