In my last three posts, I have pointed to the fact that there are two, and only two, very different conversations going on within us all the time. The first is the conversation of the ego. It is the voice of fear, worry, problems, concerns, unhappiness and more. It also has you look at the world from a you vs. me, win/lose, competition, perspective that has you go through life with your attention on yourself and concerned with your survival.
The second is the conversation of your higher consciousness. It is the voice of hope, faith, trust, peace, possibility and more. It has you look at the world from a you and me, win/win, we are in this together perspective that has you go through life with your attention on others and concerned with cooperation and empowerment.
Sogyal Rinpoche in The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying explains it this way: “Two people have been living in you all of your life. One is the ego, garrulous, demanding, hysterical, calculating; the other is the hidden spiritual being, whose still voice of wisdom (who he refers to as your wise guide) you have only rarely heard or attended to.” There are literally hundreds, if not thousands, of other stories about this same phenomenon.
To complete this conversation for now, and if you haven’t read my book Unshackled Leadership, I offer you a wonderful story about a Cherokee Indian:
One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, “My son, the battle is between two ‘wolves’ inside each of us.
“One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority and ego.
“The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.”
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: “Which wolf wins?”
The old Cherokee replied, “The one you feed.”
Here’s my recommendation to begin winning the battle over your ego: Every day, read this story to remind yourself of the conversations of the two wolves. Then, spend the day noticing which one you’re feeding. Remember: life is about the choices you make and you’re always choosing.