More thoughts on being judgmental

Would you like to know how to make life easy? I don’t have an answer for that but here are a couple of questions I do have an answer for: Would you like to know how to have life be easier? More peaceful? Less stressful? Would you like to know how to have all your relationships improve? You can have all of that if you just give up your right to judge others. Here’s why:

Judgment is actually confused by us with wisdom. We think we are capable of “good” and “bad” judgment. But what is often “good” judgment to one is “bad” judgment to another. Further, even the same person classifies the same action as showing “good” judgment at one time and “bad” judgment at another time.

Remember how many times you thought you knew all the “facts” you needed for judgment, and how wrong you were? Is there anyone who has not had that experience? Are you clear there were many times you thought you were right just to find out later that you were wrong. Be clear: wisdom is not judgment, it is the relinquishment of judgment.

I invite you to realize that not only shouldn’t you judge, but you cannot. Judgment in the usual sense is impossible. This is not an opinion, it’s a fact. In order to judge anything rightly, you would have to be fully aware of an inconceivably wide range of things; past, present and to come. You would have to recognize in advance all the effects of your judgment on everyone and everything involved in them in any way. And, you would have to be certain there is no distortion in your perception, so that your judgment would be wholly fair to everyone on whom it rests, now and in the future.

So, getting back to my initial thoughts, if you would like life to just be easier, less stressful and more peaceful and for all your relationships to improve, perhaps dramatically, lay judgment down, not with regret but with a sigh of gratitude. You will free yourself of a burden that you didn’t even realize you were carrying.

To the degree you are now asking what do you do now, consider the following. You have heard me say many times that life always comes down to two choices; listen to the fear-based voice of your ego or listen to the peace and joy-based voice of your higher consciousness. Listening to the former will always get you in trouble and listening to the later will always keep you out of trouble.

In this case, it is the voice of the ego which encourages you to judge and convinces you that you both can and have the right to do so. That thought alone should make you realize why you want not to do that. Instead, in every situation, just tune into your higher consciousness, your higher awareness, and take the action you are inspired to take. That action will never include a judgment, it will just gently encourage you to proceed in a manner that has the highest probability of success for all concerned.

In personal relationships, it is my truth that you can either be judgmental or loving. Any time you choose the former, there is no possibility of that later, and vice versa. So do you want your relationships to be great? To last? To be joyous? Simple formula: give up your right to judge and instead choose to be loving! And if you presently have a spouse, share this e mail with them and make an agreement to do this with each other. Then you can truly live happily ever after.

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