Continuing with and completing the post I started a couple of weeks ago, I said at that time that the more I study and understand the nature of life and business, the more I become convinced that the “formula” for having an amazing life and a truly successful business is really quite simple: Totally release the past, let go of all attachments and judgments, forgive everyone for everything, including yourself, be grateful for everything, and focus only on being peaceful. Pretty simple, wouldn’t you agree?
But the problem is obvious: hardly any of us do any of those things. Wouldn’t you agree with that too? So let’s continue to dig into this a bit deeper so you can understand why this is a sure-fire formula for happiness and success and why it seems so difficult to implement. And if you’ve missed the earlier posts, they are here below.
Focus only on being peaceful
Think about it for a moment. What’s the alternative? Focus on being resentful, angry, bitter, unhappy, getting revenge, disappointed, frustrated, fearful? When you see that list, I’m sure you would say that it would make no sense at all to focus on any of those things. Right? But isn’t that exactly what far too many people do?
Think about the people you know. Aren’t some of them resentful? Aren’t others seemingly angry all the time? Do you know people who are unhappy? What about disappointed? I’m sure you know people who are always frustrated. And I’m equally sure you know people who are fearful.
Now look in the mirror. What about you? Really! Tell the truth. You do know the expression: seek ye the truth and the truth shall set you free! My point is that people in general just don’t look carefully enough at the consequences of their behavior and the impact it has on their lives. I know it makes no sense to you to focus on any of the behaviors I listed above. But I’ll bet that you’re at least partially guilty of doing just that.
I once heard someone say: it’s not the destination that matters, it’s the journey that counts, so enjoy the trip. I wholeheartedly agree. Are you so focused on where you would like to get to some day that you’re missing the joy of the journey? This is such a prevalent attitude in this culture. Make your list of goals, plan, act on the plan, work hard, stay focused, don’t give up, are all the rallying cries of the modern world. What gets lost in all of that is that the ultimate objective is the “feeling” that we think we’ll get when it all works out. And in the meantime, we’re frustrated, angry, disappointed, etc.
So if you understand what I’m saying, why not start with the feeling you want? Ultimately, the feeling you are searching for is joy, happiness, excitement, passion and the like. Correct? And what’s the result all of those feeling produce? You wake up each day peaceful and serene. How great is that?
Stephen Covey suggested that one of the 7 habits of highly successful people is that they start with the end in mind. So if you follow my logic, and that the ultimate end is being peaceful and serene, why not start there and let the rest take care of itself? And as I have pointed out many times, being peaceful will just attract to you events and circumstances to support you in being peaceful.
So let’s end where we began. Here’s the “formula” for having an amazing life and a truly successful business: Totally release the past, let go of all attachments and judgments, forgive everyone for everything, including yourself, be grateful for everything, and focus only on being peaceful.