As a follow up to what I wrote about last week, if you accept my point of view that life and business are not about winning or losing but rather about winning or having learning experiences, the obvious next step is to learn to play full out all the time. And that is something most people don’t seem to want to do. Why is that?
Look at it this way: you can expect the best all the time, most of the time, some of the time or none of the time. What do people mostly do? Rarely do people expect the best all the time and here’s why: Mostly, people don’t accept my basic premise and still think that life is about winning and losing. In such case, you surely don’t want to let it all hang out because if it doesn’t turn out the way you would like, you feel foolish, maybe naïve, but surely a loser.
But in the context I’m creating, where you always win, whether you do or not, then you might as well expect the best and go for it because there’s nothing to fear. And you do know that fear is the dominant human emotion, right?
Can you begin to see how this all plays out and why human beings tend to hold themselves back? Don’t expect the best, worry about losing and be fearful, it’s all the most popular game. Unfortunately, the price you pay for playing that game is: no self- expression, no real joy, no real passion, a life of quiet desperation. Just what the ego wants.
I’m proposing that there is another way to play. Just go for it. Play full out. Expect the best all of the time. As I discussed last week, celebrate your victories, learn from your mistakes, trust that it’s all perfect and have fun. The payoff is full self-expression, excitement, joy and passion, and a life worth living. As I say in my book Unshackled Leadership, always two and only two choices, and the one you pick makes all the difference in the world. Choose wisely!